What is the true meaning of Self-Love?
Self Love, Self-Confidence, and Self-Admiration: Small Talk
I ask myself a simple question overtime someone has something to say about how I don’t love myself and how I should self-love a little more.
The instinct or desire to promote one’s own well-being; regard for or love of one’s self.
Self-love is such an important topic in our world today. So many preteens, teenagers, and adults do not love themselves. Its almost foreign. I read an article a few days ago called “The Seven-Step Prescription for Self-Love”. This article expanded on seven steps to keeping you in good health and good mind. Truly informative and inspiring.
The first step was “Become Mindful and Thoughtful”. I can relate to this step because i am a very thoughtful person. I think a lot about what is happening around me, and I do believe that it is both a blessing and a curse. Thoughtfulness and mindfulness are so important to ones journey to self-love, and if you think about what you need for your mental and physical health other than neglecting yourself by doing what others want, your life will be drastically better.
The second step was “Act on what you need rather than what you want”. I have such a strong connection with this step, as I view myself as a minimalist. When I was going through a tough time, I bought material things I didn’t need. The more I bought the “better” I felt. In reality, I was just digging myself into a giant hole of debt that I would have a tough time digging myself out of. The less I bought and the happier I felt. I feel that the less someone owns, the happier they will be. All we need is a roof over out head, a bed to sleep in, food on the table, clean clothing, and very good friends and family. Surround yourself with only the necessities.
The third step was “Practice good self-care”. I am a huge promoter of this step. My daily routine consists of a shower, my makeup, getting dressed, brushing my teeth, and heading out the door. My mother always complains about how dark or thick my eyebrows are. Everyday, I outline them, fill them in, and then blend them. I feel good about them. Its one of the only things I like about myself. When someone tells you something that they don’t like about you, shove it up there ass. It’s your body. Go get a tattoo. Pierce your nose. I don’t care what you do. If it makes you feel good and confident, you do you.
The fourth step was “Set Boundaries”. I was in a really unhealthy relationship from my freshman year to the beginning of my junior year. Threats were made, lies were told, and people got hurt. Setting boundaries to what you are comfortable with and what you can “take” without hurting yourself both mentally and physically is very very important. I cannot stress this enough. If you don’t feel comfortable, let the person know your boundaries. Set personal boundaries for yourself. Don’t get yourself in risky situations that could jeopardize your journey to self-love.
The fifth step was “Protect yourself”. In my personal experience, protecting yourself is one of the most important steps. If you surround yourself with kind, caring, and understanding people is so important. I made some bad choices when it came to friends these past few years. A few weeks ago, I decided to make some changes. I stopped talking to those who were a bad influence on me, and made some really incredible friends. The people I have recently surrounded myself with have made my life so great and I’m so lucky to have them by my side every step of the way. “There isn’t enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the shine on your face that says ‘I genuinely love myself and life”. (Psychology Today- Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D)
The sixth step is to “Forgive yourself”. For me, forgiveness is hard. Sometimes it is hard to forgive yourself for saying something bad to someone, failing a test, hurting a family member, or just making simple mistakes. We all can be hard on ourselves. If we learn to accept our wrongdoings and forgive ourselves for them, we can then grow from our mistakes. “Remember, there are no failures, if you have learned and grown from your mistakes; there are only lessons learned.” ( Psychology Today, Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D.)
The seventh and final step is to “Live Intentionally”. When you decide to live with a purpose, you will love yourself more. Living intentionally will give a person purpose and a motivation to live a happier and healthier life, a more meaningful life, and a more mindful life. I have lived a close to pointless life. I have not helped anyone, and I definitely have not helped myself. Knowing that I am on the right path to self-love and happiness gives me the motivation to do great things. I am trying to help people as often as possible, and I’m trying to help myself by not ignoring how I feel, thinking through uncomfortable situations without acting irrationally, and trying to love myself.
Self-love is so important for a persons mental health and physical health. Following these steps will drastically improve your life. It has taken me a while to even slightly love myself, but I’m on the right track. I hope that what I had to say about this article has helped you in any way.
“To love yourself is to understand that you don’t need to be perfect to be good.”- Unknown
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