There’s just no other way.
Happiness is a choice.
“Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
– Abraham Lincoln
“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
– Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
“The world of those who are happy is different from the world of those who are not.”
– Ludwig Wittgenstein
Happiness has always has been a choice, and it always will be a choice. You just have to wake up one day and tell yourself that every moment you are suffering, you can make the choice to stand up taller than your flaws, depression, anxiety, etc, and find something that makes you eternally happy. It is a life changing decision that I myself have made, and honestly, it couldn’t feel better.
You are your conscious choices and habits. If you say you are going to have a bad day,you will have a bad day.
Going back to my years of softball, every time I go up to bat, I touch my Hamsa necklace, smile, and say, “I am going to do my best. My very, very best”. I smile at my coach, do my ritual at the plate, and then everyone’s cheers and voices are gone. I can’t hear anything, and I stare at the pitcher. She lines up, I set up. I move my foot backwards, making sure I send it flying forward when my hands start to go. I remain positive in tough situations, and make sure that no matter the count, I hit the ball and send someone in, or get on myself.
It is a conscious choice to be positive, and by being negative, you are doing yourself a HUGE disservice.
I am grateful for everything.
I have come a little too close to death in my life. I have seen things most people shouldn’t ever see, and I have lived through abusive relationships. I have forced a smile on my face even when I want to frown.
I have pulled myself out of those situations and have become grateful for what they have taught me. I am more wary of toxic relationships, boundaries that need to be set, and how I should feel. I have learned that being grateful for everything I have gone through, and have experienced, is honestly such a blessing.
“I am grateful for my struggle because without it, I would not have stumbled across my strength. “
Learning from the wrong is a key factor as to how I have found a glimpse of light in even my darkest of times.
Do things that make you, and solely you, happy.
I used to mope around the house on a daily basis. The only reason I got up and went somewhere was to get food, or go to softball.
In these past few months, I have realized that I need to get up and do something that makes me happy.
Since being at college, I have done things that have made me feel both happy, and humble.
So, I go hiking. Purgatory Chasm, Journey's End, Ross’s Cliff, didn’t matter where. I also find a place to hammock, to sit with friends, to listen to good music.
Life is so, so, so short. Sitting around wasting it on YouTube or Netflix is such a shame. Get up and go. Find something amazing to do, amazing to see, amazing to experience. Get lost in the right direction, it feels so good.
There was definitely no WIFI in the wilderness, but I promise you, I found a much better connection.
Find someone who makes your soul burn with passion.
I found someone who makes me happy. She is soul food. She is poetry in a world that is just learning the alphabet.
I have so many people here that feed my soul. I have so many good people surrounding me.
Help someone else find the happiness you have found.
Always share your happiness with others. If you end up losing a friend in the making, as they don’t want your positivity and want to continue to be negative, thats okay.
Go and be you. Let your soul catch on fire with passion. Let happiness flow through your veins.
Don’t let the behavior and rude and hurtful remarks of others destroy your inner peace.
Take life day by day, complain very little, stop being negative, and be grateful for the little things in life.
Now, I am not an “expert on happiness”, but I do know something. I am choosing to move forward and be the best person I can be.
Today is a new day, and I have never been happier.
"Our shoes are tattered and torn, but our feet are dry. As for our places in history, we will run naked through your streets before we sit decorated in your halls."